All I Ever Needed To Know I Learned In Kindergarten:

Well, I have at least five posts saved in my drafts and haven't had the time to finish any of them. I hope this one is different. Between work and my kids going back to school I am an unorganized nervous wreck. Speaking of going back to school I have been reading a lot of posts/ blogs on this subject, especially about kindergarten.
I'm there, again. My second child started at the beginning of the month and wow what a difference from my first. Flashback~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~September 2001~~~~~~~My oldest child, my only child, my first born son is starting school. Does the date ring any bells. It sure does for me. I was 81/2 months pregnant with my miracle baby girl having a nice bubble bath when the phone rings. It is my son's teacher telling me he has failed the GKAP ( kindergarten readiness test) She thinks he would benefit from extra help and by the way he tried to pull the fire alarm today. She is a great lady who I later find out lives up the street. This news is surprising but not exactly shocking. My son is the sweetest little boy, but cannot sit still to save his life. His teachers have and will say " He has the biggest heart in the world, he just needs to learn to control himself". Hey, don't we all. Anyway, I try to call my husband but he is in Ohio of all places I can't seem to get in touch with him. My mom will just think I am pregnant nuts so I call a friend in a similar situation. She assures me she is just as nuts and thinks I should wait until I have the conference with the teacher before I pull him out and home school. You know, the new baby coming and all. Okay, I give, but I am still thinking this teacher deserves to be publicly flogged for thinking anything but wonderful thoughts about my first born child. Does she not know what I am going through here. I get through the day and decide I will make it until the conference tomorrow. But that day never comes. As I lay on the sofa having my second bowl of cereal watching Good Morning America Charlie Gibson announces a plane has crashed into the world trade center. As he is talking another crashes right before our eyes. As the morning unfolds and our country learns what may or may not be happening and I am debating whether I should get my son from school. Yesterday I was frantic about my son's place at his new elementary school and now I am losing it about his place at school. I knew I would freak about him being gone. I cried the whole first day , but I never thought I could stress about his physical being at a suburban elementary school, right? Boy, was I wrong. Us mommies decided against confiscating our children on the advice they would realize something bad was happening. Good advice I am sure, but by 2pm carpool I was having so many contractions I could barely drive and no one would answer their damned phones. At 4pm my husband finally calls from Ohio to say he has obtained a rental car and will be driving home immediately. Thank God! My doctor calls at 5pm and the contractions have slowed considerably. I am advised to have a glass of red wine and a long hot bath. My in laws arrive and stay until my husband is home. My beautiful boy makes everything okay. Calm, happy, and very reassuring. Even when the next week the doctors hospitalize me for pre eclampsia until I am thirty eight weeks and able to deliver. Even when our country is in shambles and no one feels safe he can't wait to go to his next soccer game. He is my candle guiding me in the dark. I have no more control. He is in school while I am in a hospital. I am going to have his little sister and I feel so helpless in my responsibilities as a mother. I feel so much guilt. Guilt for not being there, guilt for our sorry excuse as a world unable to create peace for our children, guilt for being pregnant, and guilt for the time I have to spend away from him. Will he understand? Will he be okay? Will he be scarred for life from his crazy mother and the rest of the world? Fast forward.................
Present day.......yes it might sound like I was a teenage drama queen(but weren't we all!) but really, I was that crazy. It was too much for me to comprehend at the time. I did have my baby girl ( all 9lbs5oz of her ) two weeks later and my son only sees his therapist 3X's a year now for his ADD Rx's. They say he has recovered nicely. As for me, well the medication helps. Seriously though, it was one of those life lessons that is forever carved out in my head and my heart. I can't control everything. Really, pretty much nothing. My dad had the Serenity Prayer hung in his home office as long as I can remember. He is even actually a card carrying member. You think hearing and seeing this virtue that often would have had some effect on me. (besides guilt) I guess it has because I eventually get the hint. You might have to knock me over the head with it and I will blame hormones and childbirth for the rest of my life, but the hurdles we have to climb in life, especially for our children, are just that: hurdles, mountains, life lessons. We will get through them and learn from them. Let go! They won't fall, children are stronger then we think. When we are at the top we sometimes forget how hard it was to get there. But life will remind you. With my daughter starting school it is so much easier this time. I still have a knot in my stomach every morning when I drop her off and I still cried the day before she went to kindergarten in the middle of the Kroger parking lot. (hormones!!)
I have to let go in little bursts with my children. But this doesn't mean I won't walk through a wall of fire to protect them, either. We are learning "when" everyday. When to let go and when to tighten our grip. Middle school, kindergarten, preschool,...it is all hard to me now. I finally got #3 potty trained but now she has to do it a preschool. OMG, I can't believe how nervous I am. I feel stupid for even saying it.
Anyway, we are all going through our mommy "puberty" at different levels and times. Just like when we were teenagers, we only have so much control over our lives. But now, as so called adults, we do have the experiences to help guide us through our lives. And if that doesn't get you through there is always good friends and excellent medications:)

My Mommy

Today I am a little on the worried side. My mom is going to have a biopsy to find out if she has breast cancer. I hate to even say the word for fear it may come true. She was really scared and nervous when she called last night to tell me. My mom has hardly been sick a day in her life and my family has luckily not had to deal with a lot of medical issues, especially life threatening ones. My sister called as soon as she got off the phone with my mom. We kept telling ourselves that women have these issues sometimes but everything usually turns out fine. My dad is going with her and she said they should have the results very soon. I hope so. I don't have a lot of experience with these situations but waiting seems one of the more difficult parts. I am trying to pass the time by doing things to keep myself busy, but I am still worried about my mom. Mom's are so important to daughters and I have been blessed with a wonderful mom who is always on my side. Please say a prayer for her. Thank You.

My Middle Is Gone

This has been a very busy and exciting week. My oldest daughter, who is my middle child, started kindergarten on Monday. Yes, we start very early down here. My son started sixth grade. That is still elementary school here. Although, he doesn't act like it.Of course, true to her nature she barely batted an eye when I dropped her off on Monday morning. I was about to cry if it weren't for all the parents huddled around the kindergarten wing together. We are a cute bunch. I am much calmer this time around. When my son began kindergarten I was 81/2 months pregnant with his sister and getting notes home and phone calls by the second week of school. Not to mention this was September 2001, so life was slightly crazy and scary anyway. I feel a better sense of calm while she is at school. I know this school. It is right behind me. I lived up there for the past six years. She did get the only new teacher in kindergarten and my son had all the others at some time or other. I was a little disappointed, but I know we can handle this. She comes home everyday and gives me a full report on the days event. My son still only gives one word answers unless it is bedtime. He had to even ask her to stop talking the first day because he wanted to tell me something. They are so cute walking into school together. He is already 5'6" and she is barely 4ft. I know this is what we parents work for but, preparing our children for leaving the nest, but I was secretly glad I still had little 3 to stay home with. She is watching Caulliou and running around in her Dora underwear. We have just recently become potty trained, by my standards. We will have to tackle preschool in a couple of weeks, but she will only be down the hall from me. I am not ready for all three to be gone all day, yet. I know this will come soon and by 5pm I am ready to throw them outside, smog alert or not. I am just trying to cherish every moment and do the best I can. Some people are worried about this teacher or that, going to middle school, testing etc...I am trying to be active, but I am learning to say no, too. I also try to do my homework when it comes to curriculum but not one system I've looked into is perfect. Our little niche has a small school, only 565 students in six grades, by most standards. There are varying levels of economic situations , especially when you get to middle and high school, but I love our area and the home we have built together as a family. I wouldn't trade it for the world. I believe it is important to put down roots somewhere, if you can. Somewhere your family can truly call home. I am so glad I get the opportunity to know one place where my children can thrive and I can too. School has a large place in children's lives so we better make it count.
I had big plans after school started to workout and work more on my writing but other things have come into play. Like, sleep and laundry. This will be okay. I am learning to adjust and be happy where my life is now. My heart has sank to where my middle used to be and I am not sure I want it back the other way.

To My Bonus Baby, Happy Birthday!!

We have this habit of giving our children several nicknames. Their birth order names are Blessing, Miracle, and Bonus. Blessing...we prayed one night, he came to us...Miracle...we prayed for 5years, and she came to us...and our precious Bonus baby came without any praying, buy boy did we do some praying after. You know the story, you think it takes a miracle to get pregnant so you are not as careful as you used to be, and here we are. But, sometimes the gifts are surprises. We all know children are a gift from God, but the idea of one when you are not expecting one can be overwhelming. My husband and I had to do some soul searching and remind ourselves what a true blessed event this was. She has brought our entire family together in way we were not before. And I mean everyone. I even got to see who my real friends were during this time. My mom was a big help, my little brother and I are almost sixteen years apart( from the same marriage). She had to change parts of her life, too. But the sacrifices are always worth it.
Thing 2 even came into this world differently then her siblings. We decided to have a csection at seven months because she, like her siblings , was way bigger then my 5'1" frame could handle. Her sister had dislocated her shoulder, so we didn't want a repeat. I am lucky in one way with my pregnancies, I have never gone past my due date. All three were induced in some way 7-14 days early. I also get pre-eclampsia. Bonus baby came in the world by csection ten days on August 3rd, 2004. She weighed 8lbs.15oz. ( not my biggest, but close) and 22in long. She had hair and big huge blue eyes just like her brothers, and both still have today. She is the one I can claim. She looks the most like me. Her sister looks like a cross of my sister and my hubby. She acts like me, too. Which is good and bad, of course. She can be very laid back but pitches a fit when she's hungry or tired. She doesn't seem to care she isn't really potty trained, but it is making me nutz!! She is and will be the glue for this family. She follows her sister everywhere, but she will be the one who tries to keep her sister on the straight an narrow someday. They remind me so much of my sister and I. They will be best friends and they will drive each other crazy. I am so glad they have each other.
When I look at little miss bonus baby, I can't believe I was even worried about what life would be like with three kids. Yes, money may be tighter but her laugh is so worth it. She teaches me more then any amount of money could buy. That old " patience " virtue creeps back into my life. Slow down, mamma. Thank you God for my little precious bonus baby, thing 2, little midget, beautiful baby girl. She is a good light for me to follow.

A post I want to pass along...theartfulflower.blogspot.com ...Romeo Raccoon must die is one of the funniest posts I ever read.

My Childhood Dreams

http://crazyhipblogmamas.com/?p=345... This is a "collaboration" post with crazy hip mamas. The topic is something I think of often especially when watching my own children.

My earliest childhood dream I remember was when I was in about first grade. I really thought being a teacher would be fun because whenever we played school I was always the teacher and got to boss everyone around. As I got older I realized there was a lot more to being a teacher. For instance, helping to shape those young minds I get to boss around.

My biggest childhood dream came when I was ten years old. I was going to Catholic School and had my first male teacher. (not a priest ) He was young, cool , and taught me to write my first real short story. In fact, he really liked my story and had me read it in front of the class. I was very shy and didn't want to but he convinced me. And what do you know, the other kids actually thought it was very cool. That was my first taste of fiction writing and finding something I was good at doing and just loved. The idea I could make up a story that other people would read and liked sounded great to me. I was already a huge daydreamer and loved to read. The teacher also gave me a lot of praise and that in turn gave me confidence. It also showed me, as I became older, what an influence a teacher can have on a young persons life. I will never forget the day John Lennon died because of this teacher. His reaction to John Lennon's death moved me so much for such a young person.
Unfortunately, I moved later on that school year, but my love for writing only increased. It helped me through the move and many other difficult times in my life. I developed not only a dream of becoming a published writer but a passion for writing. Also, my first childhood dream of becoming a teacher is a reality. I know now I touch every little young mind I teach in some way. I also realize my dream of being a writer has also come true. I have had a few minor things published but that is not what makes me a writer; my passion for putting my thoughts down on paper is what has made my childhood dreams come true.